Daughter

My daughter is a mystery to me.

She cries. She's dramatic. Little things are enormous. Everything is exaggerated.
It's exhausting. And not a language in which I am fluent.

I had an epiphany recently after conversation bouncing.

Conversation bouncing: 
I share a thought/ concern/ brain candy with someone and listen to their response. 
When I get a particularly interesting response, I can then float that by another person to hear their response. 
It's fascinating. 

As Ev falls into a rabbit hole of emotion and wet pants, I shared this with my therapist.  Then Nicole. The IT guy at work. Nicole again.

Thought train:
Ev and I just communicate differently and have very different personalities.
Her anxiety could be manifesting as wet pants and overt emotions.
It's possible that these issues are a result of trauma.
Possible, - but unlikely that this is a result of a traumatic event from two years ago.
More likely, she is reacting to a change in ... me.

Confronting.

But it would make sense.

Now, when Ev cries, I have tried to change my responses by accepting the cry. Acknowledging that her crying might make her feel better. But to please take that to her room so I can keep working.

Apparently, this is not great. It's ignoring someones feelings. And a child's way of interpreting this could be * I'm allowed to cry, but she doesn't want to know about it *

In many ways, this is actually true. I don't particularly care about these ridiculous overwhelming bouts of unnecessary emotion. I see no need for it, especially this frequently. I accept that if you want to do it, please take it elsewhere because no, I don't want to spend time on this.

So this will be new territory for me. I've sought a child psychologist to provide some insight. We'll see where I can go from here.